SO OFTEN we do not get positive feedback from others. Many people may eventually come to our funerals and eulogise. By then it is too late to have the feedback! Have a go at this exercise:
- When you have a couple of minutes sit and close your eyes. Imagine yourself at a funeral. The church is full. There is standing room only. You are standing at the back. You are calm and relaxed…
- A light starts to dawn… people look familiar and you start to realise that this is YOUR funeral. Four people are taking turns to speak…
- Firstly, a family member. They talk about your early life right up to the present day. They love you very much. What are they saying?
- Secondly is a colleague. They have been supported by you. They appreciate you. What are they saying?
- Thirdly a friend from any part of your life that you choose. Your friendship is so special to them. You were their best friend. What are they saying?
- Fourthly someone from a part of your greater community, maybe a church, club, suburban or village activity. They so appreciate your contribution. What are they saying?
- They speak the truth. They talk about your qualities you have, things that you have forgotten about. It is gratifying for you to hear what they say… what they remember about you. Were you really so much to those people? Allow yourself to be deeply touched.
Bring those memories back to the present with you when you open your eyes. Let the content of this exercise be a resource to you.
By Sue Washington
Sue Washington has dedicated her life to helping people. From early days as a school teacher she trained psychotherapists to an exacting National standard. Her thrust in her later years has been to help people realise their power. You can ask her a question directly at www.suewashington.com